'You've got a friend in me'

Friendship is very important in marriage without the friendship binding you together it is hard to have that emotional connection. I think of that song “Be That Friend” by Michael Mclean I first heard from one of those old church movies from the church of Jesus Christ of Latterday saints “Together forever”. My sisters and i would watch this after church because we were not allowed to watch any other television but church movies. I guess this one on repeat week after week became embedded in my mind. I am glad that it did, although I didn’t fully understand it while young this song constantly comes to my mind when I am going through conflict or argument with my own husband.
Well first of all I will give the brief on this certain part , the married couple are constantly arguing , feeling like they want different things in life now and thinking what should they do and I remember the line the wife says” they weren’t really good friends like they used to be” and she said “ you can turn to the world for answers , the worlds answer was divorce , but i didn’t get married to get divorced, and then you see this couple on their knees and spending quality time eventually being able to work through these conflicts. Ok that was really brief and its only a maybe 10 minute segment and as my husband will tell you I’m terrible at retelling stories or movie lines …so I recommend looking it up and watching it for yourself.

The video itself is a little outdated and corny but the messages within it have not changed over time. Anyways back to the song “Be that friend “

The words are “well your friends know what’s right and your friends know what wrong and your friends all know sometimes its hard to choose

But the friend who helps you see , where your choices will lead is the kind of friend you never want to lose

Its that friend who leads with love , doesn’t push doesn’t shove just reminds you of the truth you have always known

Then does more then just talk takes your hand and starts to walk by your side along the road that leads back home

And this friend seems to see all the great things you’ll be even when some things you do would prove him wrong, but he always believes that the real you he sees is a champion his simply cheering on”

The last line especially goes through my mind when I feel like my husband lets me down

“Be that friend , be that kind that you have prayed you might find and you will always have a best friend come what may”.

If we spend time working on our friendship , caring about our partner their wellbeing , their fears, their hopes and dreams as a real friend does , if we do these things we will strengthen our friendship and relationship. Sometimes when I argue with my partner I will think and sometimes say “ I don’t like you right now, but I still love you “ and that is because we have that friendship.
Friends have disagreements but it is the bond we have and sincere desire for each others happiness in life that makes us not give up in conflict or when feeling annoyed, instead we know we have a strong friendship at the base of this relationship that is worth saving and improving. Sorry to add another song reference but hey music is my language "You've got troubles I've got them too , there isn't anything i wouldn't do for you, we stick together and we see it through cause you've got a friend in me". There is always going to be troubles , there will be the good, the bliss and the ugly but together we will see them through.

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