the forgiveness snowball

Forgiveness is so vital in marriage . Everybody makes mistakes , when you live with someone every day their bound to offend you , annoy you , make you mad or vice versa you will do the same . Sometimes it happens on accident and unfortunely sometimes on purpose. If you dwell on what happen it was cause more problems on your relationship and it will have a compounding affect where you will more then likely get mad at other things too . The friendship is threatened when holding bad feelings and having contention in the marriage . As the scriptures say contention is of the devil and as Christ says we are commanded to forgive everyone .

When there is a disturbance or conflict in the marriage and we choose to forgive there is much more harmony in the relationship and we can move forward with the spirit in our homes and lives .

President monsons wise words “choose your love and love your choice “ we chose each other and part of loving one another is forgiving one another .

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